If you read the Dodge DR-Truck Service Manual for our trucks you will see the AAM 11.5 axle on the 2500/3500 trucks does not require the use of friction modifiers, but a fill using Synthethic GL-5 75-90w Gear Oil. This weight of oil can be purchased at your local parts store or at Walmart in a brand of your choice. I personally prefer Valvoline Synthetic, and cost about 11.00 a bottle at my local Napa store. It is even backed by Cummins and Mopar.
On some of the other Diesel boards people have debated about using the 75/140W oil, since this is what GM uses in their AAM 11.5 Axles with a 50,000 mile drain interval (If my memory serves me right). Some have even gone so far as to email AAM this question. Their reply back was paraphrased to say, "use the service life and a synthetic weight of oil the manufacture put into the axle, since the axles are ship dry from AAM to Dodge." So, according to rumor on those same boards Dodge uses a Mobil 1 Synthetic 75/90w GL-5 Fluid. Lets also not forget the published Service drain intervals at 30,000 miles for Service Sechdule A Drivers and Ever 15,000 miles for Service Sechdule B.
And, yes Dodge has had a few problems with the AAM 11.5 Axles with and with out Anti-spin options, which quite a few people believe the culprit is the low weight rating of the oil. I believe the debate is still out on that and only a post failure oil analistis with a stock fill base line analistis will settle it once and for all.